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8 Seemingly Good Habits That Are Actually Bad for Us
They are more of a self-sabotage than a beneficial tool to reach goals.
This essay is about eight seemingly good habits (tendencies, behaviors, mindsets) that are actually hurting us in the long term. They’re harming our personal and professional lives, happiness, and health.
Some of these behaviors are indeed praise-worthy, but at the level they are a character of a lot of the society, they have lost the healthy balance and become hurtful.
For many years I also felt like these tendencies were something to strive for, and I tried to embody them, but through the years, I have realized how they have been more of a self-sabotage that is blocking me from true fulfillment and success than beneficial tools to reach goals.
#1 — Perfectionism
The praising of external achievements from early childhood conditions us to strive for perfection. Teachers praise the students who get the highest grades (As or 10s), and parents reward their children for excelling at school. And students that fail in school get shamed.
No wonder we subconsciously assume that striving for perfection means we’ll be loved and accepted.
