#5: Your well-being increases as you learn to love yourself better.
Often when we face challenging times, we are looking back to the time in our past when we felt happy. Perhaps you traveled or had a great time together with loved ones. Maybe you are looking back to the time when you had a less stressful time financially.
Life goes through seasons and cycles — there are moments when we feel like we are on the top of the mountain, and there are moments when we feel like hitting rock bottom. I believe that we get better with every cycle; therefore, our lives get better too.
Occasionally challenging times and circumstances are needed to give the extra push for the next level. Otherwise, we get comfortably stuck where we are. …
Too many times, we focus on shortcomings and inadequacies instead of what we did right.
Self-blame is awful.
You keep on analyzing and playing out scenarios in your mind about how you should have done things differently. “Why I didn’t do that?” “Why I didn’t think of this?” “Why I didn’t consult with him/her?”
It drains the energy and distracts the focus. Eventually, if you get to the analysis-paralysis moment, you might just stop doing anything. “I just don’t know how.” “I always make mistakes.”
One of the best pieces of advice I have ever heard is from the pastor Steven Furtick:
“Don’t judge yesterday’s decision with today’s wisdom. It will paralyze you.” …
Conditional confidence vs. unconditional confidence.
When I was doing one of the most challenging jobs — selling educational books door-to-door in the USA and Canada, I learned a valuable lesson about unconditional confidence.
I came across this concept of unconditional confidence in Dustin Hillis’s seminars — Dustin Hillis is a CEO of Southwestern Family of Companies and has been a company’s record-holder in sales for many years.
I must admit that I had been struggling with self-confidence a lot since my teenage years. A significant breakthrough came when I learned to love myself and applied the concept of unconditional confidence in my life.
The unconditional confidence concept is essential in a world that values and aims for tangible results — money earned, followers gained, status earned, and sales or leads acquired. Unconditional confidence asserts that we should not base our confidence, value, and self-esteem on these things. …
How does worry, cynical thinking, repressed emotions, low self-esteem and chronic stress affect our bodies?
In the book Switch On Your Brain, Dr. Caroline Leaf proposes that 75% to 98% of mental, physical, and behavioral illnesses come from one’s thought life.
Although that is a round estimate, researches prove that happy people (with positive emotions, absence of negative emotions) live longer. On the other hand, chronic stress decreases lifespan.
Looking at the World Health Organization (WHO) data, the last 20 years have seen a rise in non-communicable diseases, especially in the Americas and Europe. Research shows how negative thinking may negatively affect our bodies, being another factor making us vulnerable to non-communicable diseases.
Heart diseases still have remained the leading cause of death all over the world, according to WHO. But dementia (its’ most common form is Alzheimer’s disease) has stepped into the top 10 causes of death worldwide, ranking 3rd in both the Americas and Europe in 2019. …
Several vision-less years taught me to decide on my life’s vision before someone else decides.
I was sitting in another seminar again, and the topic of “You need to have a vision” was chasing me for a couple of years already.
I knew I did not have a clear vision of how I would like my life and business to be like.
I only had a desire that can be vaguely ascribed as “knowing what you want.” I wanted what I do to make an impact and help people. I knew I was meant for something more; I did not know what.
I had been working as a sales manager for two years, and sales managers were expected to be clear on their business and life vision. This was not just a regular 9–5 type of workplace. This was an opportunity to build your own sales organization with a lot of ownership following the company’s success principles. …
Forgiving yourself is one of the most underestimated principles.
Have you ever been judging yourself continuously about a particular mistake or a failure to do something?
If yes, you know the choking feeling it brings when you play out different scenarios in your mind about how things would have been if you did do or didn’t do something.
A lot has been talked about the necessity to forgive others but forgiving yourself seems to be an underestimated principle. Yet, it is so vital to living a life free from anxiety and shame.
Self-love and acceptance are big topics these days, yet, I feel that many people still don’t pay enough attention to those. I see a lot of people neglecting self-love and self-forgiveness. I used to do that a lot as well. …
For those who are starting businesses or writing careers.
On your road to a successful business or freelancing career, have you felt like this?
“I opened the stats page on Medium in the morning. I saw how the article I had invested a lot of time and passion into had produced very few views.
Next, I open the news page on Medium, with the articles that the algorithm has decided would interest me. There I see an article about how somebody has made 6,000 USD from a story, and somebody else has earned over 10,000 USD a month.
It feels inspiring and discouraging at the same time. Inspiring about what is possible and discouraging thinking of how I can ever get there with my 50 views on the article? …
If you love to explore how the mind works and how you can apply the principles of neuroscience practically, you will love these books too.
2020 has been quite a year. Thankfully, it has been an excellent year for reading some life-changing books.
Here are three books that I would love to recommend reading for everyone interested in improving their mindset, understanding how their brains work, and wanting to create a more abundant life through their thought-life.
These books will help you change old paradigms and limiting beliefs and explore the world of neuroscience, quantum physics, and spiritual intelligence simply and practically!
1. “Switch On Your Brain: The Key to Peak Happiness, Thinking, and Health” by Dr. Caroline Leaf
Choose one habit each week and change your life considerably in 12 weeks.
There are dozens of “habits that will change your life” lists, and I believe each one of them contains some fantastic habits.
I will not claim this list to be unique and something like “magic help.”
With this article, I aim to provide you with a list of very simple habits that have improved my quality of life in the past few years. They are simple habits a lot of people know, but most are not doing. At least consistently, not. The benefits of these habits have been proven scientifically.
These habits will contribute to a better quality of life, increased concentration, productivity, and greater happiness. …
What I loved in the Year 2020 amidst all the challenges and unexpected interruptions of my plans.
I am definitely an introvert. Always have been.
Although through the last few years, I have learned to let my expressive side out as well. When I feel like so.
For the people who have their expressive side as the dominant, this year has been challenging. There has been a lot of social distancing, self-isolation, canceled events, and too much time on their own.
But how about introverts — people like me?
Finally — Time For Myself
No doubt this year has been challenging for me, too, especially professionally and financially. Most of the things did not go according to the plan.
However, through all the difficulties, a dream of mine had come true — finally, plenty of time for myself. …
