Conditional confidence vs. unconditional confidence.
When I was doing one of the most challenging jobs — selling educational books door-to-door in the USA and Canada, I learned a valuable lesson about unconditional confidence.
I came across this concept of unconditional confidence in Dustin Hillis’s seminars — Dustin Hillis is a CEO of Southwestern Family of Companies and has been a company’s record-holder in sales for many years.
I must admit that I had been struggling with self-confidence a lot since my teenage years. A significant breakthrough came when I learned to love myself and applied the concept of unconditional confidence in my life.
The unconditional…
Low self-esteem, more than anything, is blocking your way to audacious and exciting goals.
“I need to try harder, to be good enough.”
“It needs to be done perfectly, to be good enough.”
“I wonder what others will think of me.”
“They must think I am incompetent/selfish/stupid/ugly.”
“If I will say no, they will think I am selfish.”
“Why do I always make such mistakes?”
“Again, I said something so stupid.”
That is some of the negative self-talk going on in the minds of people with low self-esteem. Everyone lacks confidence occasionally, but people with low self-esteem are unhappy or unsatisfied with themselves most of the time.
However, low self-esteem is not our natural…
Perfectionism and people-pleasing — tendencies that give us a false feeling of benefit.
Take a look at the tree in the picture. It is “living” in the wrong place; it is crooked and seems to be an outsider compared to other trees — the normal trees growing in normal places. Yet, it is “The Wanaka Tree” — the most photographed tree in New Zealand.
It sure is not perfect, nor does it strive to be perfect. However, it is unique. And its’ uniqueness drives visitors from all around the world.
Why do we, humans, try to achieve certain man-made standards by striving for perfectionism and living lives trying to please others around us?
Stop placing your inner peace and happiness on external factors.
Have you been burned out from people-pleasing?
Have you been feeling dependent on others to affirm your self-worth?
Have you been feeling anxious about what others think?
It is time to rediscover your self-worth and learn unconditional self-love.
Whenever we engage in people-pleasing and self-worth doubting syndromes, we search for happiness and peace of mind outside ourselves.
But no matter how hard we would try, controlling others and their opinions is something we can’t do. Instead, let’s learn to place the anchor of our happiness and peace of mind within.
A couple of years ago, discovering the powerful effect of…
Commit to finishing what you start and never give up on your vision.
There is one thing people don’t talk about as often as about other success principles. And that is commitment. Perhaps it seems too difficult a concept to grasp. Or it requires too much effort.
So many of us start things that we never finish — starting from attending new courses or reading a new book or starting a business or other significant project.
While occasionally, we understand it is simply not worth our time and energy, many times, a steadfast commitment is precisely what we need to achieve success. …
Lessons to help you communicate better, be more likeable, and succeed in business and life.
It was a tough beginning of the week. I was in the prairies — in Saskatchewan, Canada — selling educational books door-to-door.
I got into my car in the morning, feeling anxious and pressured from the previous two days when I had sold practically nothing except a small set of books that barely covered my daily expenses. This time I had a further drive — approximately 1h. I was about to start knocking on doors in a different town than previous weeks.
My mind was very loud that morning, wandering into negative scenarios. …
What do you need to hear to start exercising regularly?
Every article about morning routines or habit lists contains doing some form of exercise.
Most people already know that it is essential. But is knowing enough to start exercising consistently?
I know I occasionally need extra motivation to start my day with exercises, especially in the wintertime, when it is still dark outside in the mornings.
Physical fitness is essential to the success of the person. According to an article in Forbes, “countless successful people, from Fortune 500 CEOs to entrepreneurs and celebrities, have discovered the undeniable connection between fitness and success.”
For example, Richard Branson (who’s started over 400…
How I changed my self-image from “I am not good enough” to “I am worthy.”
As acknowledged by the #1 Britain's therapist Marissa Peer, many problems come down to one limiting belief: “I am not enough.”
The way we see ourselves determines a lot — the quality of choices we will make, the quality of relationships we will have, our financial well-being, and whether we will chase after our dreams or stay in the “I don’t know if I can” zone.
I had a problem with low self-esteem for most of my teenage years and the first half of my 20s. I did not see myself as worthy and good enough and, therefore, deserving of…
Lessons about life, purpose, success, making an impact, passion, resilience, and faith from someone who has learned to live life well.
Tim Tebow is a successful athlete, 3x NY Times best-selling author, founder of a charity organization, global speaker, and entrepreneur. As an athlete, he is a 2x national champion, first-round NFL draft pick, and the 2007 Heisman trophy winner.
It is clear that someone who is successful in so many different fields and is making an impact in the world has learned to master life well.
I recently read his book Shaken: Discovering Your True Identity in the Midst of Life’s Storms. He is a rare example of a person with true integrity. He embodies his ideals into real life…
How are we conditioned to think in terms of either success or failure, and why is it so bad?
Failure is one of the most common things of human existence. Yet, we are so much afraid of failure and try to avoid it by all means. If we think about the possibility of a failure, we automatically think of low self-esteem and confidence, lack of others’ respect, and feeling of being a loser.
Nobody wants to fail.
Everybody wants to succeed.
Nothing wrong with that, of course.
Yet, we have underestimated the necessary positive effect failure can have in our lives.
And we have underestimated the fact that no one can go to the mountain top before first conquering…
